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I think that my husband of 11 years is cheating on me with a woman on his job. I have no real proof but I have this strong feeling. I just want to go and scratch her eye balls out. Why would she do this to me? What should I do?
Mad as …
Dear Mad as…
First of all do not scratch out her eyes. Actually you sound as if you are not really sure. Before you rush in and do or say something regretful you need to have a serious conversation with your husband. If there is cheating it is not the woman but your husband that needs to supply some honest answers. And don’t think about scratching him either!
Tell him of your concerns. It may, or may not, be anything, but you have to start more basic before you start a war over suspected WMDs. Take your time and pray through your moves.
Please write us if you have more for us to go on other than speculation alone.
I love my wife, but lately she dresses at night so unattractively. She puts on these flannel gowns that are buttoned up to the neck. Even her arms are all covered. I can’t stand it. I see all these TV ads with all of these hot women advertising everything from soap to bras. Why can’t she see that it is affecting me? What can I do?
Frustrated
Dear Frustrated…
Maybe the best thing to start with is a good old fashion sit down time with your wife. Let her know that you are being turned off. Listen to her heart. (maybe she is really cold) Let her know what it is doing to you in your mind. Offer to go shopping with her( Your treat of course). Remember that you want her to be comfortable while still stimulating to you. ( A string in the middle of her rear end may not be comfortable for her.) Compromise is always a boost to romance. Healthy love making is both give and take. Let her know how much you love and appreciate her. We hope that these beginning steps will help you!
JUST GOT MERRIED I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW HOW WE SHOULD GIVE GIFT FOR OUR CHILDREN BIRTHDAY AND HOLIDAYS SHE HAS 2 AND I HAVE 4
Dear,
Just Got Married,
Together you have 6 children right? Each child should be honored on their birthday. They each should receive gifts on Christmas, etc. The two of you will just have to budget it out. These children did not ask to be here but since they are they need to be treated special. Please make no difference in her children and your children.
You did not state who or how many are living with you. Please send more details. Perhaps we can help more.
What do you think of Tiger woods?
He is a great golfer? Do you have more of a question?
I ‘m talking about his divorce situation.
Ok I get it. I think they should have had a good marriage counselor perhaps that person could have helped them save their marriage. Their problems were not impossible but they were ironed out in the press. There needed to be a God factor in their business. I wish that I had a chance to work with them. Maybe I could have helped.