THE LEAVING FACTOR
A basic foundation for marriage is found the first time in
Genesis 2.4 . . . “a man is to leave his father and his mother,
cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”. I call this
God’s triangular plan. It provides the full support system for
any marriage. There are three main elements in God’s system.
This seems so simple, almost too simple for some. Let me
remind you that the triangle is the strongest of the geometric
shapes. A load placed upon the pinnacle of a triangle of
substantial materials will bear that weight as long as the points
hold together. This is due to the weight being distributed
evenly along the whole system. Actually it helps itself sustain
itself. The architecture of Buckminster Fuller often utilized
the strength of the triangle. In fact Fuller created a ball-like
dome made from combined triangles. From this we could
draw an interesting parallel: If the triangle represents the
family the dome could represent the larger community. The
obvious conclusion to our parallel illustration is that a strong
society is made up of strong families.
Scriptural/spiritually each of these three elements is
substantial; together they are powerful. However just as a
physical triangle becomes defeated when any of the elements
are removed the same becomes true in the business of
marriage. Without each of these elements working together
in tandem, distributing the weight along the entire foundation
of the marriage, the marital union will grow weaker and
weaker until a second element is adversely affected. If at this
point the condition is not corrected look for either a total
collapse of the union, or a very ineffective marriage. A
marriage that remains by mutual agreement based on, “For
the sake of the children”, or “It would not look good in the
public right now”, as reasons, or “Think what this would do
to our parents after having invested so much in our
happiness,” etc. The excuses go on and on but lead to nothing
positive. Staying married has little to do with other people
and what they think. Yes it does affect the children but you
need to stay for you. After all one day you promised through
sickness and health and all that other stuff that you would
remain.
Our society is not in the greatest shape today because of
so many weak families. Each family unit does have an effect
on the whole of society. If you imagine that each marriage is
like a drop in the bucket just remember that continual drops
will eventually over flow the bucket.
MARRIAGE: THE RULES OF THE GAME The Leaving Factor September 8, 2010
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